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Archive for January 12th, 2010
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Christian spouses arguing
A lot of men both married and unmarried struggle in this area they find themselves constantly looking and lusting after other women without realizing the impact it has on their wife Here my take on the issue from a biblical perspective
how to patch up with your girlfriend
Are you having some problems with your girlfriend in this relationship You cannot stop thinking on how to patch up with your girlfriend Here are the tips on how to patch up with your girlfriend again – Do not push away your responsibility Sometimes it is difficult to admit your mistakes However when problems start to appear in your relationship you cannot escape from it Your girlfriend will not like it when you do not want to admit your mistakes Even though the problems may not be your fault you should not push away your responsibility to patch up with
stop my husband from criticizing me
How many times have you heard a friend say their spouse is always criticizing them How many times have you told your own spouse he is too critical and needs to stop it It’s easy to get into the habit of criticizing Criticizing is when you give someone feedback on something they say or do and the feedback is perceived as negative In reality criticism delivered correctly can be a great tool for learning how to do some things differently But when you perceive the advice as being critical of you the chances are you are going to stop listening
what to do if your partner criticizes you too much
How many times have you heard a friend say their spouse is always criticizing them How many times have you told your own spouse he is too critical and needs to stop it It’s easy to get into the habit of criticizing Criticizing is when you give someone feedback on something they say or do and the feedback is perceived as negative In reality criticism delivered correctly can be a great tool for learning how to do some things differently But when you perceive the advice as being critical of you the chances are you are going to stop listening
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WIFE CRITICIZES ME TOO MUCH
How many times have you heard a friend say their spouse is always criticizing them How many times have you told your own spouse he is too critical and needs to stop it It’s easy to get into the habit of criticizing Criticizing is when you give someone feedback on something they say or do and the feedback is perceived as negative In reality criticism delivered correctly can be a great tool for learning how to do some things differently But when you perceive the advice as being critical of you the chances are you are going to stop listening
effects criticizing spouses
How many times have you heard a friend say their spouse is always criticizing them How many times have you told your own spouse he is too critical and needs to stop it It’s easy to get into the habit of criticizing Criticizing is when you give someone feedback on something they say or do and the feedback is perceived as negative In reality criticism delivered correctly can be a great tool for learning how to do some things differently But when you perceive the advice as being critical of you the chances are you are going to stop listening
becoming codependent with your spouse
Codependency in the marriage can cause a lot of deep resentments that are not even really understood at the time You know you feel bad about the relationship but may not be sure of exactly what is causing the problems All you know is that the relationship is very unfulfilling and you can t seem to get your spouse to pay the right kind of attention Codependency in the marriage is when one partner places the needs of the spouse before their own It is not just a matter of being nice all the time When you are codependent you
he constantly criticizes
How many times have you heard a friend say their spouse is always criticizing them How many times have you told your own spouse he is too critical and needs to stop it It’s easy to get into the habit of criticizing Criticizing is when you give someone feedback on something they say or do and the feedback is perceived as negative In reality criticism delivered correctly can be a great tool for learning how to do some things differently But when you perceive the advice as being critical of you the chances are you are going to stop listening
dr mark harries
Relationship Help Advice By Dr Mark Harries – marriage counselling marriage guidance counsellor relationship counselling
Net visitors have many choices when it comes to finding the advice they want.
Professional counselors with master’s degrees and even doctoral degrees covering counseling, social work, and psychology are available 24 hours a day. Anyone seeking relationship advice can see which counselors are instantly available with their issues.
Advice seekers can search through counselors’ biographies and choose the analyst that they feel most at ease confiding in.
There are quite a few counselors available 24 hours a day. In case someone prefers to be helped by a psychologist who is not online at the time, he or she can simply leave a message to contact the therapists and set up a virtual counseling session for another time.
Counselors are available in a variety of areas including many aspects of marital issues.
Talking to the therapists originates at no charge so the client can establish if he or she is satisfied with and has found a good match in a particular counselor. Once approved by the counselee, the rate is based on the actual length of time of the session. This way clients and the counselors decide the proper amount of time based on the intricacy of the situations. This method is a great improvement over traditional hourly charges in another setting.
Receiving Internet relationship advice services has been available for several years. Clients appreciate it because it provides the chance to get help immediately. It allows them the chance to follow up on whatever the counselor says. Of course, this is not possible with regular advice columns.
Two types of advice seekers who can benefit from online advice services are people without private transportation or access to mass transit as well as people that are not at ease discussing their issues in person. When these points apply, getting help online might be the difference between finding a solution or not getting any help at all.
An additional aspect that clients really like is the knowledge that one person is always available to focus on them and their issues the whole time as opposed to talking to friends on the Net or by text messaging on their cell phones because friends often have ten simultaneous conversations open.
Discovering online relationship help is one of the best uses of the the Internet. To be able to help people all over the globe around the clock truly means that nobody has to feel isolated.
“You never listen to me…I’ve asked you a thousand times to let me know when you can’t pick the kids up from daycare!”
In my work with couples, it is common to hear one person accuse the other of “not listening.” This usually takes the following form:
1. You ask your partner to do something that is important to you;
2. For a period of time your partner follows-through on your request;
3. At some point your partner becomes less consistent in his/her follow-through;
4. Your partner’s inconsistency increases until there is no trace that you’ve ever made a request;
5. Steps 1-4 are repeated and frustrations mount. A large percentage of marriage problems can be traced back to this pattern.
Relationship Problems: A lack of message adhesiveness
It’s a simple fact: you (and your partner) have a limited ability to hold onto information—and our fast-paced, hectic, information-overload world just adds to the dilemma. What does this mean to your relationship? If you listen to thirty different things throughout the course of your day, you may only remember five of them a week later. Some information is more adhesive and more likely to stick in your memory, whereas other information will enter your mind one moment and seem to mysteriously vanish the next.
Because of this fact, your goal as the listener is to increase the adhesiveness of your partner’s message so the information becomes a permanent entry in your mental Rolodex.
It is the responsibility of both the speaker and listener to increase the chances that communication brings about the desired outcome. So whether you are making a request or being asked to do something, there are steps you can take to increase the likelihood that your message will both hit the mark and remain in place.
Relationship Help: 3 ways for you (as the listener) to increase message adhesiveness
1. Ask for clarification about a request
Asking for clarification serves several important purposes: It helps you get a better sense of what the speaker needs and at the same time it sends the message that you are interested and want to understand what your partner has to say.
This will make your partner feel that you are fully engaged in the dialogue.
2. Translate the message/request into concrete action steps
As the listener, you need to take the words being directed at you and use them to shape your behavior in a new way. When your partner needs something from you (whether it is to “communicate more”; “listen better”; “be more responsible”), in essence you are being asked to do something different: to either add a new behavior that is absent or stop a behavior that is unwelcome…or both.
So each message you hear should lead you to think about the specific behavior change you need to make in order to fulfill your partner’s request.
3. Rehearse and build on your partner’s message
As the listener, one of your jobs is to make sure the request gets stored on your mental hard-drive and that you have permanent and easy access to the information. You don’t want to continuously fail in the all-important department of reliable follow-through because it keeps slipping your mind. The “I forgot” excuse gets old fast.
ne way to increase your follow-through is to rehearse the essential part of your partner’s message. All rehearsal involves repetition. You repeat the message (either to yourself or out loud) over and over again until it becomes more adhesive. This is how people prepare for interviews; how actors memorize movie scripts; how teachers learn the lesson plans they teach; how students learn new information.
Another way to bolster message adhesiveness is to write down what you need to remember. There are two ways this is helpful:
a. You can write reminders to yourself as a memory aide;
b. You can rehearse the message by repeatedly writing it.
Messages are more likely to be remembered when they are personalized—you do this by building and expanding on your partner’s message.
For instance, if you agree to work on becoming a “better listener,” you can tell yourself: “I want to be the best spouse I can, so I will work on being more attentive while listening” or “When I really listen to my partner, s/he feels understood and cared for, so it’s a win-win for us both. I will make it a top priority.”
Notice how in each of these examples, rather than simply repeat what your partner needs from you, you expand on the message in a way that makes your follow-through more personal and meaningful—after all, don’t you want to be the best spouse/partner you can possibly be?
And don’t you want to create win-win situations?
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Richard Nicastro, Ph.D. is a psychologist and relationship coach with fifteen years experience helping individuals and couples live more fulfilling lives.
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