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I don’t want to completely give up on him as I still have hope for our 15yr marriage. We have kids, a nice home, money saved and I believe its best to work through our broken marriage.
He has cut out all intimacy with me and moved out of our home since he started dating this mistress over 2yrs ago.
Will couples counseling work for us or does he need individual therapy for his wayward ways?
Nick Duffell and Helena Løvendal Sørensen from Creative Couplework (www.creativecouplework.com) talks about their experience on intimate relationships and what happens with sex in the long term. Nick and Helena has more than 30 years experience on psychotherapy and counselling and have specialized in relationship issues. This is part II of a two part interview. Interview is done by Monica Fidtje from Parterapeutene AS, http More information may be found at www.creativecouplework.com
Legally separated for 2 years. Do you still need to wait another 6 months once you move to the “divorce” part of the process?
My “husband” admitted that he still in love with a co-worker that he had an affair. That is the only probe I have from this year. Can I use his confession during the divorce? How long is going to take the process?
My wife and I have 4 kids, we’ve been married for almost 15 years. We have been in marriage counselling since April. Things have not gotten any better and in some ways have gotten worse. I’m a very patient person and I fully expect that this will take some time. I also understand that sometimes things have to get worse before they get better because we have to get issues out in the open and deal with them.
I really WANT it to work and I have made a lot of changes for her, but so far it doesn’t seem like anything is good enough for her and she still mistreats me. I’m willing to do whatever it takes, but this can’t go on without any improvement forever. At some point I will have to decide that I’m beating a dead horse. I wouldn’t mind being in counselling for years if I thought we were making progress, but so far it’s not even helping a little. How long should it take before I can reasonably expect to see some sort of improvement?
Thanks for all the answers so far. There are a few points worth clarifying:
1. Sue B – You are right, I don’t feel like she is doing her part to change. In counselling she admits that she has certain habits and judgements that are hurtful, but when sha actually DOES them and I ask her about it, she denies it and makes up ridiculous lies to cover it up, which only makes it hurt worse.
2. Sue B. – I thought about maybe switching counsellors, but we both seem comfortable with her and things she says makes sense. I think the problem with my wife is that she expected the counsellor to tell me I was the problem and she just can’t handle that she has some work to do also.
3. Jrjordan – Please don’t misjudge my question by its title. I never meant to imply that the counsellor is the whole solution. I only used “marriage counselling” in the question to announce the topic of my question.
You are making a lot of assumptions in your answer. I don’t know why you assume that I am hurtful or untrustworthy. My motivation to change IS 100% (I thought I said as much), and I did say that I would continue counselling for years if I thought it was helping. I don’t expect everything to be magically fixed overnight, I just want to know what’s a reasonable time frame to expect a glimmer of hope, even a small improvement. I can’t go on like this forever because it’s affecting the children.
If your answer is inspired by Christianity, then perhaps you should remember to “seek first to understand, then to be understood” and “judge not lest ye be judged.”. You have painted a very innaccurate picture of who I am and what I am doing to save my marriage.
My husband and I want to file a divorce together. We don’t want to fight each other. We talked and agreed with everything we want. We are separated almost 2 years. We are good friends because of our 15 years old son. We want to be singles.
A friend of mine filed for divorce in January, but the divorce is still pending with a court date of 2011. Is this normal?
My brother is married to a woman in Pennsylvania and he is stationed in Kentucky. He just got the papers in the mail a few days ago stating that the divorce was taking affect. He didn’t have to sign anything or send them back. Can anyone tell me how long it will be until the divorce is final or what he could do to speed it up?
OK we didn’t get a lawyer because we are filing a joint petition, non-contested dissolution. His aunt, who works for the prosecuting attorney, is helping us with all the paperwork. We have been separated for 13 months now. We finally got all the paperwork finalized and now need to file it. Any ideas how long it might take to be finalized? We live in MO. We have no children; it should be a very simple and easy divorce.
What range of years is average?
Also, if most people don’t remarry after a certain amount of years they probaly won’t, how many years post-divorce do you think that is that they just end up staying single?